Daniel,
I moved this question from the Neutrality discussion to this one.
Your question: Personally I used to cry even with commercials as they say, with movies, I was very sensitive. Now I don't, when I start to feel emotion, or I feel my throat tighten or my psyche altered, I self-observe and balance myself. Is that ok?
For this question I can only answer “I don’t know”. This is a question only you can answer.
However, I can provide some background information and some questions you can ask yourself that could lead to some answers for you.
Emotions are created by feelings and feelings are created by thinking. So, the process is:
Thinking --> Feelings --> Emotions
It’s important to learn how everything develops within us. So, the questions you have to ask yourself are:
- What feelings created the emotion?
- What thought created the feeling?
- What was the purpose or meaning of the thought that started this process?
To the core of your question:
If you start to feel an emotion and then self-observe and then try to balance, what is the purpose of this action? Are you afraid of crying? Are you trying to suppress the emotion without any understanding? Feelings and emotions enrich our lives and serve a very important evolutionary process. Are you trying to escape or hide this process within yourself?
On the other hand, if you have fully observed yourself, you understand the emotions and the feelings and the thinking that preceded them, and you have fully explored the entire situation, then bringing yourself back into balance after the experience is fine.
At this point of your self-evaluation, you have to be careful because the ego likes to step forward and create ideas that are not true. Our egos like to portray ourselves as bigger and better than we really are. For example, your ego could say, “Oh yes, I’ve explored the whole situation and I’m just bringing myself back into balance.” You have to use your thinking and discretion in order to determine what is true within yourself. It’s very difficult because the ego is very tricky and uses all sorts of tricks and tactics to get what it wants.
You have to answer your own question. Does the above explanation help?
Salome,
Mike